A website that I have been frequenting since I was a young single adult is the FoTF website Boundless . While somewhat limited in depth, It is helpful as a tool to help young single and married college and career agers live lives that reflect God. It covers a variety of topics, and every once in a while exhorts people to action. Such is the case in the article “Pursue Her” By Dan Dyck.
Dan offers up this story:
Such guys could use some advice from my 88-year-old grandfather. He might seem like an unlikely source of dating wisdom, but he gave me a talk during my single days that I think every Christian guy needs to hear.
My grandfather is a retired pastor. Most of his time he spends deep in prayer with a huge King James Bible splayed open on his lap. When he broached the topic of women with me, I wasn’t sure where he’d go. Would he urge caution? Exhort purity? Instead he pointed to a verse that I knew well, Proverbs 18:22: “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.”
I knew finding a wife was a good thing. Was he trying to rub it in that I was still single?
No, he was pointing out that the verse implied that I had a responsibility in making it happen.
His mouth turned up at one edge.
“Find,” he pointed out, “is a verb.”
Lesson learned.
As any married man knows, pursuit of a wife is no easy thing. I would also encourage any young man to pray and seek God’s will for him in this area. On a personal note–my pursuit of my wife involved a lot of growth, humility and at times, self sacrifice. I am not an outgoing person and was deathly afraid of failure. Pursuing her made me push hard out of my shell and examine the boy I was, and the man I wanted to be. It will be difficult…but next to your relationship with Christ, it will be the most important and rewarding relationship of your life. It has been for me.
